My Favorite Saying : “We are all children pretending to be adults, some of us do not know we are pretending, and some of us are doing a lousy job pretending.” Author unknown
This blog began in January 2020. I am a seventy-seven year old semi- retired psychotherapist and life long student. In today’s world there are too few psychotherapist for the high demand for their services. Most therapists including myself have a waitlist. My main goal is to provide an emotional self help blog for the layperson to get help and thrive without the assistance of a paid therapist/coach.
This blog is more about, “How To” rather than “Whys or About”. There isn’t any psychobabble on my blog! I have a strong belief in science. I believe all of our emotions with the exception of induced drug states originated in our childhood. Finally in 2022 the pseudoscience “chemical imbalance” reason for depression was debunked.
I also avoid magical thinking. Sometimes even a severe mental health problem can be permanently resolved without drugs, simply by having a different strategy than what created the problem. Most of the trauma procedures on this blog can be self-administered. One of the newer, most easiest to learn, and apply is called, “FreeSpotting”.
Start at the bottom of the blog and read upwards. If you actually do the procedures rather than just read, your emotional life will improve. See disclaimer below.
My other goal is to provide therapists additional tools (how to’s) to help their clients resolve traumas – not just copping or muddling along! I joined LinkedIn in February 2022. As of October 2022 there are over 4,000 psychotherapist following my blog. There are more than six (6) postings on “how to” heal a traumatic memory. All of these processes in this Blog are safe if followed and avoid re-traumatizing the client.
With the exception of myself and Steve Andreas (1935-2018) very few therapists have made videos or audios session with clients and then did follow up interviews with those client months or years after an one hour session. Note: *All 22 clients on this blog gave their approval to allow public viewing. The post that have a # are one session “Clean Language” therapy interventions. The videos I am posting show what is possible if you have rapport with the client, the client is focused on changing, and you have a process/procedure that works. These sessions were not miracles! They are repeatable if you know how to and have the trust of your client.
After three years in the US Army, I studied to become a therapist. I wanted to help others. I didn’t realize at the time that “others” included myself. I had repressed a trauma of sexual abuse by my grandfather (my father’s side of family). This one time event took place when I was three years old. At the age of fifty-one, I was able to heal that trauma.
In my twenties I took every available undergraduate and graduate course class without having any real idea how to help another person in crisis. I learned how to diagnose, but had no clue on how to help a person heal their traumas until I attended a therapy workshop in 1984. At that workshop I was able to heal my twelve years of PTSD “flashbacks” and it took minutes rather than years.
As a result of that workshop, I have been a practicing results driven international therapist/coach for more than thirty-eight years. I have conducted numerous Healing Traumatic Memories workshops for therapists in Houston, Texas. In the late 1980s, I worked as a contractor for Continental Airlines EAP for employees experiencing PTSD.
In 1994, I was the co-founder of the FAA/National Air Traffic Controllers Association’s Critical Incident Stress Management (CISM) program for air traffic controllers, staff, and supervisors. This program is active today. Air traffic controllers in the USA are involved in an average of fifty aircraft crashes yearly.
I have been trained in Imperative Self Analysis, Ericksonian hypnosis, EMDR, CBT, have completed two NLP Master Certifications, and numerous other psychotherapy modalities trainings. In addition, I was trained by David Grove in the use of “Clean Language” questions in the healing of traumas. These are the most advanced of the psychotherapies modalities in use today.
I know many people without insurance can not afford help, no matter how great the need. However, if you are financially able, and feel psychologically stressed to the point that it is interfering with your ability to function, please seek the help you need in the form of a professional counselor.
If you or someone you know is suicidal contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. Trained crisis workers are available to talk 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Just dial 988. Your confidential and toll-free call goes to these near by centers to provide crisis counseling and mental health referrals.
You can also text 988 to be connected with a trained crisis counselor and receive free support via text messages.
Without the support of my wife, Laurie and my son Darren, whom started this site, I would not be online. My email address is:
[email protected] (dot) com
Clint Matheny, Ph.T
Before participating in any of the blog’s recommendations, I recommend that you consult with a physician or other Medical and Mental Health Provider.
If you choose to ignore the above advice and decide to use this material for your own or another’s recovery from prior trauma – for instance you are a trained facilitator or therapist – you are accepting full responsibility for your own actions and through this you absolve the author of any liability for any repercussions from your actions.