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I’m Easy To Forget 😀 – The Vanishing Act: When Traumas Just Fade Away

“In a healing journey, pain and emotions are like transient whispers of the heart; once mended, they often fade into the silent archives of our being.” Clint Matheny

Since beginning my “Fear of Flying” practice in 1985, and mainly using the Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memories (RTM) procedure, I’ve made it a point to follow up with clients.

It became apparent that without my prompting that many of my clients would completely forget their previous phobias or the traumatic memories we addressed. This often resulted in a lack of referrals despite their successful treatment.

Take, for instance, a client I had seen about six months prior had claustrophobia and was unable to enter an elevator or fly on an airplane. She told me that if she could overcome this fear, her income would double because she could work downtown as an executive secretary for an oil company, rather than in the suburbs for a small business.

Six months later, I phoned her on a weekend morning. I had to remind her that we had met in my office. I then asked if she was still working in Humble (a suburb of Houston) or if she had found a job in Houston. She stated that she was working in the Williams Tower, which was at that time the tallest building in Houston. I then asked what floor she worked on. She stated the 29th floor and asked why I wanted to know. I asked her if she had to walk up all those stairs. She said, “No, of course not. I take the elevator. OMG, I forgot I used to have claustrophobia!” A few weeks later, she referred a coworker to see me.

It’s not uncommon for individuals to move on from past traumas without continuously reflecting on them once they’ve been resolved. In this one minute audio below, you will hear a two-year follow-up interview with a woman who had experienced ‘Night Terrors’ for over sixty-five years:

Over the past three decades of conducting ‘Imperative Self’ therapy, I’ve gradually come to realize that most of my clients, after just a few sessions of ‘Imperative Self Analysis’, also forget their 5-7 most common unwanted emotions. To remind them, I suggest having them complete another emotional checklist.

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How does this forgetting happen. I believe this is similar to having a toothache and seeing a dentist. A year later, most of us do not immediately remember what tooth was paining us (unless we had a traumatic experience at the dental office). We just tend to forget a feeling that has been healed.

Through gentle reminders, I’ve mitigated the financial effects of my clients’ fading memories of their struggles.

I guess I’m the therapist whose success is so seamless, you’ll hardly remember me.


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