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My Favorite Saying : “We are all children pretending to be adults, some of us do not know we are pretending, and some of us are doing a lousy job pretending.” Author unknown This blog began in January 2020. I am a seventy-eight year old part time psychotherapist and …
The 13th century poet Rumi wrote, “the cure for pain is in the pain”. The “FreeSpoting” technique is an easy to learn technique that is highly efficient and effective. It will defuse almost any unwanted emotion in a very short time (less than 5 minutes). Any unwanted emotion! It’s not …
This is the most commented post on my blog. Many people tell me that they start their mornings using “ Box Breathing”, do it a few times during the day, and do it at night just before going to sleep. This has been proven to be an excellent coping mechanism …
A trauma is not an experience. It is an emotional response to an experience. A trauma is something that happens to you and that makes you so upset that it overwhelms you. What is a trauma to you, might not be a trauma to others. It all depends on our …
Washington Post Opinion article by Garry Trudeau July 10, 2023 : Garry Trudeau is the creator of Doonesbury, where he has been commenting on wounded warrior issues for more than three decades. All around the conference room in Atlanta last fall, jaws were dropping. Michael Roy, a physician from the …
November 12, 2022: In Mathew Perry’s Autobiography: Half his life spent in and out of treatment or sober-living centers. “Fourteen stays in rehab. Sixty-five times in detox, beginning at age 26, two years into co-starring in the 10-year TV sitcom juggernaut that was “Friends.” Fourteen surgeries. More than 6,000 Alcoholic Anonymous …
There are two audio recordings: The actual intervention and the followup 29 years later. There are eight types of depression. This post is about how I treat clients with the most common depression in the USA. It is called, “Major Depression” (or “Clinical Depression”). People that have this type of …
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In 1985, thirteen year old Lucinda changed my beliefs on what is possible in a therapy session. I had been doing therapy for less than a year. Are your expectations affecting your clients expectations? This 1998 video is 12 minutes long. It is a followup of the 1985 session. In …
I did a 4 year followup video with Jay in 1999. On August 1, 1995, Jay was in a horrendous vehicle accident. For over 6 months after the accident Jay was blind in his left eye, the eye was bloodshot in a fixed position towards his nose, and he was …
There is a one hour video of this C-PTSD “Clean Language” intervention that only psychotherapist can view. Below is an 8 minute follow up audio interview done 100 days after the session. Email me if you want to view the video session clint77090(at)Gmail.com. This might be helpful: what-is-clean-language-therapy/ This interview …
Note: All postings with a # symbol are “Clean Language” therapy interventions. Clean language therapy is a type of psychotherapy that utilizes specifically worded questions and open-ended responses, which allow clients to access the subconscious and explore their narratives, thoughts, and feelings, in a nonjudgmental and safe way. It relies …
This is my second posting with follow ups on healing “Depression” with “Clean Language”. The first posting was using Clean Language on Metaphors to heal depression (see the link at bottom of page) will give you a better understanding of the intervention. Could it be that 99 % of our …
“Wait a minute, Doc. Are you telling me you built a time machine?” You will better understand this post if you have read my post: what-is-clean-language-therapy/ More than likely you have never thought about the origins of the emotions you experience. Over 99% of our emotions originated before we were seven …
To better understand this client session with a three year old, see the Part 1 post on this subject. Both clients had their younger selves “frozen in time”. What does that mean? Our psyche protects us by stopping the worst moments of a traumatic event from happening to protect our …
This session on depression took place in 1985. There are two other post on this blog dealing with depression: https://clintmatheny.cdn-pi.com/healing-major-depression/ & healing-depression-disassociation-using-clean-language-16-year-follow-up/ A 28 year old man I will call “Bill” came to see me for depression. Bill told me that he had been depressed since age 5. I asked …
This intervention shows the power of “Clean Language Therapy” healing a middle age woman’s panic attacks in one 25 minutes therapy session. https://clintmatheny.cdn-pi.com/what-is-clean-language-therapy/ Asthma is a serious condition that can cause death. Stress may cause asthma or acerbate the condition. Many times doctors misdiagnose panic attacks to be asthma …
This video has two follow up interviews on Deborah’s two “clean language metaphor”sessions with me. During the first session in 1995 Deborah’s Esophagitis, Spastic Colon (IBS), and Gastritis was healed. I wasn’t aware of her medical conditions at the time of the session. In Deborah’s first session with me in …
Melissa Tiers is an excellent hypnotherapist and has a unique way of interrupting a client that is reinforcing their limiting pattern by repeating their story over and over again. This is a 4 minute video: Clint77090(at)Gmail.Com
Most therapists have worked with adult clients that were amnesic to certain parts of their past that were caused by childhood traumas. Have you ever worked with a person that was totally amnesic to their identity? In the 1990s the father of a twenty year old male phoned. On the …
“The Havening Technique” was developed in 2013, by the two Ruben brothers, Ronald and Steven . This technique is great for relaxing and the healing of painful emotions (to include PTSD). This 18 minute YouTube video by Tam Johnston gives an outstanding biological explanation of the science behind this Mindbody …
British Psychologist, Justin Havensis is the creator of the, “Dream Completion Technique” (DCT) for healing PTSD nightmares. Justin has recently taught over 1,000 Ukrainian therapists his technique. Worldwide he has taught over 3,000 therapists this very effective technique. This procedure can be self -administered; however, some people may need the …
This posting is to create a Yardstick (or Meter stick) to measure the effectiveness of your therapy. For over thirty-three years I’ve had my clients fill out the enclosed PDF attachment with the instructions to select their 5-7 most common emotions that they experience weekly. I also emphasized emotions not …
Sigmund’s Psychoanalytic Couch Sigmund Freud got two things right: almost all adult psychological problems are rooted in childhood and he allowed his clients to avoid making eye to eye contact during the therapy session by placing himself behind the client. When you require the client to maintain the western social norm …
About six years ago psychotherapist and EMDR trainer Philip Manfield developed a new trauma procedure that he calls, “The Flash Technique” (FT). This procedure can be easily learned and does not require a person to consciously engage with the traumatic memory. This allows a person to process traumatic memories without …
Thomas Zimmerman For more information on “Flash” see: https://clintmatheny.cdn-pi.com/using-flash-to-heal-traumatic-memories/
“If you are the smartest person in the room, then you are in the wrong room.” — Confucius Have you given personal advice by starting your sentence with, “If I were you?” “If I were you”, I would have your emotions, the same body, and the same personal history. In other …
Did you know that you have an emotional palette of 5-7 emotions that you repeat daily unless you are experiencing an unusual event? We are each unique because of our emotional palette. Our emotions drive our behaviors and impact our health in both positive and negative ways. Your emotions are …
“Transforming Your Self – To become who you want to be” by Steve Andreas is probably the most important book of this century on “how to” change your self-concept. “Core Transformation” – By Connirae and Tamara Andreas on is about identifying behaviors, feelings and reactions that you don’t like about …
For over thirty-eight years I have worked with hundreds of people to eliminate their fear of flying. If you can not imagine being relaxed in a seat on an airliner you are not alone and you are putting yourself under unnecessary stress. When you are imagining a threat, it activates …
After my previous post, I had many request for stories on some more emergencies. This somewhat violates my purpose for the blog, so these are my last posts on this subject. Maybe someday I might make a separate website for my other FAA experiences. I am also a licensed pilot …
The Trigger Of My PTSD Nightmares On April 16, 1998, I was working as a radar air traffic controller for the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) at Houston International Airport (IAH). I was fifty-three years old. The ceilings and visibilities were very low in the area. I was very busy working …
Some people do not believe “repressed traumatic memories” are real. In a 2 year period I had two traumas showed up after being repressed for more than 30 years. Both traumatic memories were triggered by something happening that reminded my subconscious of a similar experience and it then became conscious …
I am assuming you have read and watch the two previous placebo videos from my posts I don’t believe a placebo actually heals – rather it enhances a person’s own healing potential. In 1990, I had an accident that shattered my right ankle. I used an abbreviated healing procedure that …
Hypnosis has been used in a few hospitals for over sixty years to help patients heal burns. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/8712163/ Doctors still give sugar pills (placebos) to their patients. What is new is we know how to make the structure of a placebo (belief). In 1992, I did a “placebo procedure” with …
For over thirty-six years I have been facilitating what some would call as, “ miracles”. I have always taken exception to that word, because it infers that these healings are unusual or magical. Most of my clients were at first afraid to tell others (to include their doctors) of their …
Around 1978 I watched the TV BBC Program Series “7 Up” on the PBS. It was a video documentary based on a group of 7 year old kids from different social/economic backgrounds in the UK. Thereafter, the producers did video followups with these interviewed kids every 7 years. The latest …
Thirty- five years ago a client asked me if it were possible to recover memories of her mother before the age of four. Her mother died of pneumonia when my client was four years old. My client didn’t have any conscious memories of her mother other than her mother’s funeral. …
I am going to teach you a few techniques to interrupt a panic attack. First you should get a diagnosis that you were actually experiencing an emotional panic attack. First see your primary care provider to determine if you are having panic attacks, panic disorder or another condition, such as …
This recording should only be played only in a safe place where you can use your complete focus of attention. After listening to the recording the first time you can use progressive relaxation from memory to go to sleep, or just relax, and I’m sure you will find other uses. Make sure …
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Recently I have read that most people hold their stress in their pelvic floor muscles and if you learn how to relax these muscles, you can interrupt the stress response. These tight muscles can cause not only psychological issues such as feelings of anxiety, they can cause physiological issues such …
You can at will return to your most beautiful place in nature or your safe place by breathing in your favorite color that is available at your wonderful place. The audio is four minutes long. I couldn’t think of a more appropriate time to make this audio. Enjoy!
Over 13 % of women in the United States will get breast cancer in their lifetimes. In May 2021, my wife Laurie, found she had a cancerous tumor in her left breast. While radiation therapy does play a crucial role in treating breast cancer, it can cause incidental damage to …
Are you a belly breather or chest breather? Put one hand on your chest and the other hand on your belly. Notice what hand rises when you inhale. Babies and relaxed individuals are belly breathers. Chest breathers may have had a trauma or traumas in their past that caused them …
“People like people like themselves or people they would like to be like.” Author unknown In 1985, I attended a twenty day communications and therapy workshop in Houston . The course was spread over ten weekends and on the first day we spent a few hours on “Rapport”.The definition of …
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In 1988, I attended a five-day advanced Ericksonian hypnosis workshop in New Orleans. One morning we were asked to get into groups of three and to use both hands on the body of the client to push up and down to match the client’s breathing. I ended up with a group …
What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? Robert Waldinger is the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. In this talk, he shares three important lessons learned from the study as well as some practical, …
In 1991 Voyager 1 had completed its primary mission and was leaving the Solar System when, Carl Sagan asked NASA to turn Voyager’s camera around to take it’s last pictures of Earth across a great expanse of space. The attached video’s accompanying words spoken by Segan and written six years …
This 22 minute YouTube video by Forrest Knutson will enlighten you. Be sure to read the user comments after watching his YouTube video. I have used timeline therapy in my practice for over thirty-four years. I do not recommend this procedure for use on intensive emotional states by non therapists …
We humans have an unconscious way of storing time. I’m sure you have heard these statements: “ Put that behind you and get on with the future”, or “I’m looking forward to seeing you”. After reading this post you will have a better understanding of how you store time on …
The Obsolete Misunderstood Grief Model Back in the 1960s the Kubler-Ross’s studies on the dying took place and are still falsely believed to be about those who are grieving. After examining the research, it turns out that Kubler-Ross’s work is widely misunderstood. Kubler-Ross developed the five stages of DYING, not …
Whitney Houston’s song, “The Greatest Love of All” was a big hit during the 1980s. The song basically said that to love yourself was the greatest love of all. Unfortunately Whitney was never able to feel this love for herself and died from an overdose of drugs trying to escape …
Have you ever asked yourself that question? Most people have not and the answer to that question has a great impact upon relationships. My wife, Laurie, introduced me to a best selling book called “The 5 Languages of Love” by Gary Chapman. This book opened my eyes to the evidences that …
I am going to show you how to change a habit or a behavior with a powerful pattern called the “Swish Pattern”. The behavioral change will take place at your identity level – Do you smoke (behavior) are you a smoker (identity)? Do you want to change a habit or …
You have core beliefs that guide the decisions you make. They affect how you interpret the events in your life and they influence the way you think, behave, and feel. This post is about changing a core limiting belief (imprint) you made up before you were eight (8) years old. …
Tamsin Hartley published a book a few years ago titled. “The Listening Space – A New Path to Personal Discovery”. Her book is about not only about how to listen to others, it is also how you can change ways to listen to yourself with the use of “Clean Language …
Over the years I have worked with quite a few women that had a negative emotional response a few days before and during their periods. Some also had other symptoms, like cramping, nausea, diarrhea, body aches and headaches. About thirty-five years ago, a female therapy client walked into my office …
Tom Stone started using this very effective therapy modality that he calls, “ The In Technique ” over twenty years ago on painful emotions (PTSD, grief, anxiety, etc). I have used it for over ten years. Tom and I both believe that when we were infants we learned to avoid …
This procedure when used can desensitized any emotional feeling. EMDR has been around for over thirty years. EMDR and EMI were most likely discovered around the same time by Francine Shapiro and Connirae Andreas. Both noticed people’s eyes movements when they were doing the NLP Trauma/Phobia Cure. I believe EMDR …
I started using the Eye Movement Integration procedure (EMI) around 1991. It is a brief therapy technique that is effective in treating acute and post-traumatic stress, but also phobias, the symptoms associated with addictions and negative or self-limiting thoughts. EMI is a neuro-therapeutic method for accessing and integrating traumatic memories …
The Dynamic Spin process can help you release your negative thought patterns, physical pain, and other mind-body issues in a matter of minutes! Steve Andreas gives a 4 minute demonstration of the Spin Procedure on anxiety: Be sure to watch the video and follow the instructions by first working on …
BrainSpotting is a therapeutic tool to heal traumas and to desensitize unwanted emotional states. BrainSpotting was developed over twenty years ago by David Grand, PhD. Ten of thousands of therapists around the world have been trained in this modality. David Grand’s 3 minute video: There are many excellent YouTube videos …
I have found this procedure to be a very effective cure for PTSD traumatic flashbacks. It also works well on simple phobias and visual intrusive memories. This procedure was originally called, “The Fast Phobia Cure” in the late 1970s, then in the 1980s it was called “The NLP Trauma/Phobia Cure”, …
Some of us have an insistent internal voice going nonstop and some of us have very little internal dialogue. I am going to show you how to improve yours. First a story. In 1986 I facilitated a class for my employer called, “Interpersonal Behavior”. On the third day of the …
Was it a big or small pink elephant with white spots? Maybe you have read or know that computers and human brains can not do negations. Computer programmers definitely are unable to do programming by using “don’t or do nots”. Programming language is about telling “what to do” rather than …
I witnessed a fatal airplane crash on May 30, 1972, at the Greater Southwest Airport (GSW). I was an air traffic controller and a private pilot. The day before I flew with the three pilots for over three hours on this aircraft as they prepared for a FAA check ride …
Are people at any given moment in time doing their best? Maybe they are ! Have you ever been so angry that you did or said something that you regretted five minutes later? At the time that you said or did what you regretted five minutes later, that was the …
The title is true. First I have to explain the two (2) most important perceptual positions in which we experience the world. 1st Position: being in our body, seeing what we see now/or what we saw then through our own eyes, hearing what we hear through our ears, and feeling …
My language patterns are going to be very unusual in this post. Most likely you have never heard/seen anyone write this way. It might be helpful to have a pen and paper to write down the location of these “identity parts”. When we are learning something new, it can be …
This question that you are always asking yourself will determines how successful you will be as you move through life. This most important question you are always asking yourself is usually outside of your conscious awareness.This question you are always asking yourself is called the “Virtual Question”. From my experience …
If you have a bad memory that has become a habitual distraction in your thinking this (2) two minute audio will make a difference. The difference will be you will be able to experience this memory in a different way. This visual memory will change in its emotional intensity and …
Are you a hostage to your emotions or do you have emotional choice?A good beginning would be to know your emotional palette. Everyone you know has an emotional palette and very few people are aware of their 5-7 common emotions. Many of us simply feel good or bad. Your emotions …
That three letter word is “try”. I mean using it “to attempt to do something”. The word “try” is a very powerful word to many people’s unconscious minds. The word “try” means fail. That is where the saying comes from: “try and try again until you succeed”. Listen to the …
And here’s why – “The Wizard of Oz” has probably been seen by almost every adult over forty years old in the western world. It was produced in 1939, has shown on TV since the 1980’s, and everyone remembers “the yellow brick road”. It was made to be a musical …
Let’s start with a simple exercise and then work up on the postings: Think of some situation at work or in life that is making you unsatisfied and you want it to change (relationships, physical health, mental health, finances). Ask yourself the following questions: 1. What is wrong? 2. Why am I having …
