This is a 5- minute overview video on this subject: There is no universally agreed upon model for the stages of grief. Grief is a response to the loss of someone or something important. Before continuing, ask yourself this question if you are grieving the loss of a …
Whitney Houston’s song, “The Greatest Love of All” was a big hit during the 1980s. The song basically said that to love yourself was the greatest love of all. Unfortunately Whitney was never able to feel this love for herself and died from an overdose of drugs trying to escape …
Catherine Pearson of The NY Times, asked nearly a dozen experts in sex and intimacy for the advice they repeat again and again. For starters, they said, don’t get so hung up on how often you have, or want, sex. More: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/08/21/well/sex-therapy-questions.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share&referringSource=articleShare&sgrp=c-cb
This is a 9-minute “Deep Dive Podcast”: Have you ever asked yourself that question? Most people have not and the answer to that question has a great impact upon relationships. My wife, Laurie, introduced me to a best selling book called “The 5 Languages of Love” by Gary Chapman. This …
You have core beliefs that guide the decisions you make. They affect how you interpret the events in your life and they influence the way you think, behave, and feel. This post is about changing a core limiting belief (imprint) you made up before you were eight (8) years old. …
Tamsin Hartley published a best seller book a few years ago titled, “The Listening Space – A New Path to Personal Discovery”. Her book is about not only about how to listen to others, it is also how you can change ways to listen to yourself with the use of …
Tom Stone started using this very effective therapy modality that he calls, “ The In Technique ” over twenty years ago on painful emotions (PTSD, grief, anxiety, etc). I have used it for over ten years. Tom and I both believe that when we were infants we learned to avoid …
This is a 5-minute video overview: This procedure when used can desensitized almost any emotional feeling. EMDR was discovered by Francine Shapiro over thirty years ago. Read all of the post before continuing with the procedure! I believe EMDR can be self administered on mild traumatic events and problems. …
I started using the Eye Movement Integration procedure (EMI) around 1991. It is a brief therapy technique that is effective in treating acute and post-traumatic stress, also phobias, the symptoms associated with addictions and negative or self-limiting thoughts. EMI is a neuro-therapeutic method for accessing and integrating traumatic memories and …
By using the Dynamic Spin technique, you can free yourself from negative thinking or self-criticism. You can also reduce or eliminate any physical discomfort, self-doubt, or emotional barrier that prevents you from achieving your goals in a short time. Sounds unbelievable? Test it ! This is a 5- minute Google …
BrainSpotting is a therapeutic tool to heal traumas and to desensitize unwanted emotional states. BrainSpotting was developed over twenty years ago by David Grand, PhD. Ten of thousands of therapists around the world have been trained in this modality. David Grand’s 3 minute video: There are many excellent YouTube videos …
Transforming Your Inner Dialogue – Practice Compassion Towards Yourself And Be Your Own Best Friend: This is a 5-minute video on how to be your best friend: Many of us experience a constant stream of inner dialogue, while others may have very little. Let me guide you on how to …
What if cruelty isn’t always monstrous, but simply a result of misaligned perspectives? This is a 6-minute video: The question of what causes human evil—cruelty, indifference, and acts of harm—has haunted philosophers, mental health workers, and theologians for centuries. We’ve blamed ideology, trauma, biology, and social conditions. But one …
Perceptual positions are the ways we perceive ourselves and others in any situation. There are three main perceptual positions: self, other, and observer. Each position has its own advantages and disadvantages, but they can also be misaligned or distorted, leading to confusion, conflict, or dissatisfaction. This is a 14-minute “Deep …
Who are we really? WARNING: There is a story about sexual abuse in this post This 6 – minute video explores the concept of the “Second Perceptual Position” or “The Other Perceptual Position “: Are people at any given moment in time doing their best? Maybe they are ! …
This is a 5-minute video over view: First I have to explain the two (2) most important perceptual positions in which we experience the world. 1st Position: being in our body, seeing what we see now/or what we saw then through our own eyes, hearing what we hear through …
Do you have a strong sense of self? If so, you’re less likely to join a cult. Read on to learn more. This is a 5-minute video overview of your identity parts (You, I, Me, Myself , your Name, your Nickname, your Spirit). My language patterns in this post …
This is a 5-minute video on a very powerful technique that is easy to learn: If you have a bad memory that has become a habitual distraction in your thinking this (2) two minute audio will make a difference. The difference will be you will be able to …
Are you absolutely sure you have “free will”? Does a person that has claustrophobia have free will to relax or panic in confined spaces? Does this same person have “free will” to get help to eliminate their phobic responses to confined spaces? If you have read my previous post you …
This is a 6 minute Video on “The Free Will Illusion & What Would Jesus Do?”: Many of us like to believe we’re entirely in control of our actions—rational agents, freely choosing right from wrong. But what if much of what we do is governed by unseen forces—our biology, …
Are you a hostage to your emotions or do you have emotional choice?A good beginning would be to know your emotional palette. Everyone you know has an emotional palette and very few people are aware of their 5-7 common emotions. Many of us simply feel good or bad. Your emotions …
Was it a large or small pink elephant with white spots? Despite my instruction not to think of it, you likely visualized it anyway. That’s because our brains struggle with processing negations. This is a 9 minute audio “Deep Dive”. Listen with new ears: When it comes to technology—our smartphones, …
That three letter word is “try”. I mean using it “to attempt to do something”. The word “try” is a very powerful word to many people’s unconscious minds. The word “try” means fail. That is where the saying comes from: “try and try again until you succeed”. Listen to the …
This is an 11-minute Podcast on the Yellow Brick Road: And here’s why – “The Wizard of Oz” has probably been seen by almost every adult over forty years old in the western world. It was produced in 1939, has shown on TV since the 1980’s, and everyone remembers …
I am now 80 years old. I sent this email in 2020, to my teenage grandkids: This is a 6-minute video overview of my email: “The most important part is in the next-to-last paragraph. I started thinking about the jobs I’ve had from age 5 to 75. I’d never …
Ever feel like you’re doing all the right things—therapy, journaling, self-help—but still stuck in emotional loops you can’t name?—read on or watch this 6-minute video: You’re running on an emotional autopilot you can’t see, the one that’s been steering your life since childhood. Until you uncover it, you’ll keep …
Let’s start with a simple exercise and then work up on the postings: Think of some situation at work or in life that is making you unsatisfied and you want it to change (relationships, physical health, mental health, finances). Ask yourself the following questions: 1. What is wrong? 2. Why am I having …
This is a 5-minute video overview on this breakthrough in therapy: Most people drag their past around like a ball and chain because they don’t know one simple fact: Your brain can rewrite the emotional meaning of a memory. Not suppress. Not “cope better.” Rewrite it. That process has …
